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"I Need You To Believe Me"

I had to apologize for something this weekend, and I HATE apologizing. Probably not much more than you do, but maybe a tiny bit more. I really, really enjoy being right. Getting to say the words “I told you so” (or even more satisfying, implying the words with tone and a sigh) fill my heart with…
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On Dad Discrimination and Equal Parenting

I would like to squash a stereotype with you today please. But first let me tell you a story. Last night, Joe got home from work at 6 p.m. Georgie greeted him at the door, excited to show him the new paints I bought her that morning. Joe ran to the bedroom to change out…
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Vulnerability Vs. Over-sharing

I’ve learned the difference between vulnerability and over-sharing the hard way. I look back at my college years and shudder. My memory of those first few years in college were an over-sharing fest. Put a bunch of sheltered, horny Christians trying to navigate their first steps in adulthood in close-quartered dorms and mandatory weekly “spiritual…
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To Those Who Don't Go To Church

Yesterday, I took my family to church for the first time in a year. I sprung it on Joe and Georgie in the morning after I enjoyed my last bite of the crispy pancakes they made me for breakfast. “Alright, get dressed. It’s Mother’s Day and we are going to church,” I said. Joe looked…
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My Husband is Not My Spiritual Leader

Here is a little timeline of my attitude toward the concept of husbands as spiritual leaders: Ten years ago: “I just really want a man who can be my spiritual leader. And I hope he plays the guitar.”  Eight years ago: “I broke up with him because I just can’t see him as my spiritual…
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My Husband is Not My Spiritual Leader

Here is a little timeline of my attitude toward the concept of husbands as spiritual leaders: Ten years ago: “I just really want a man who can be my spiritual leader. And I hope he plays the guitar.”  Eight years ago: “I broke up with him because I just can’t see him as my spiritual…
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A baby made my marriage better

This might be an unpopular opinion, but I’m going to go ahead and say it. Adding a baby to our lives actually strengthened our marriage. Before you get all crazy on me, let me first say that the reason we chose to have a baby was NOT because we wanted to improve our marriage, and…
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#MeaninglessChurchJargon

Over the weekend, Twitter caught “on fire” with a “missional movement” from a bunch of “Kingdom-minded” folks “doing life together” with a “heart for transparency.” I’m talking about #meaninglesschurchjargon. Writer Nadia Bolz-Weber of Sarcastic Lutheran asked her Twitter followers Saturday for their favorite church jargon, and the response was huge. Hundreds of people jumped in…
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Super Bowl Sunday is the best day of the year. Unrelated: I hate football.

I love the Super Bowl. Not because I love football, or even because I can tolerate watching five minutes of it, but because it means the NFL season is OVER. Sunday at approximately 6:30 p.m., I get my husband back, after six months of living with a sports entranced zombie-like replacement. The Super Bowl is…
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Improv(ing) my life: What improv comedy taught me about marriage, motherhood and life, Part I

I am three weeks into an eight week introductory improv course. I’ve been embarrassed to tell people, as if the admission suggests I think I’m really comedic or something. The truth is, I read Tina Fey’s “Bossypants” a few years ago, in which she suggests everyone should take an improv class at some point in…
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