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Burnt potatoes and lowered standards

Since Baby G and I celebrated our newfound freedom last week by going on a craft retreat vacation in Oregon, this is my first “normal” week of being a stay-at-home mom.

My take away today is that I’ve got to set some boundaries.

This is the first time in my adult life I haven’t worked outside the home, and I can already tell I’m going to need some direction to make this work.

Today, Baby G and I slept in until 9 a.m. I grabbed her from her crib and nursed her when she woke up at 6:30 a.m., and then we dozed off and cuddled in bed together for several more hours. While I loved those hours of sweet snuggles, the rest of the day I felt I was working to get back that lost time.

I sliced up a few sweet potatoes for Baby G and put them in the oven. Then I forgot about them and burnt them. I opened the fridge trying to plan what to make for dinner and realized I needed groceries. I got Baby G dressed to go to the grocery store and then got distracted by a phone call. We never went to the store. I never made dinner.

As found on Rushedmommy.com

I did have some special moments with the girl, so the day wasn’t a total bust. But this is just so different than what I’m used to … no boss with high expectations, no concrete deadlines, no colleagues relying on me to pull my weight. It’s just me and a 9-month-old looking to me for love, nurturing and protection. And a house that won’t clean itself.

I’ve got to set my own expectations, my own deadlines – all while having grace for myself, because the whole point of this new life isn’t to finish a ton of projects or keep a perfect house but to spend quality time with my daughter.

So I’m forgiving myself for falling short today, modifying my expectations for tomorrow, and promising myself I’ll get an early start. I’m going to think about the things that need to get done each day and prioritize them, keeping in mind that home life with an infant isn’t anything close to predictable.

Any suggestions?

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  1. Rebekka on October 8, 2013 at 10:26 am

    The best tips I have for you is actually to plan each day. I often sit down each night and plan everything from working hours, what to eat, and house cleaning. That keep me focus and get things done 🙂

    • creatingmom on October 8, 2013 at 10:32 am

      Thanks, Rebekka! I’m learning to do that – I’m naturally not a very organized person, so I can see that motherhood is going to give me a nice kick in the pants in that area.

  2. Rebekka on October 8, 2013 at 10:26 am

    The best tips I have for you is actually to plan each day. I often sit down each night and plan everything from working hours, what to eat, and house cleaning. That keep me focus and get things done 🙂

    • creatingmom on October 8, 2013 at 10:32 am

      Thanks, Rebekka! I’m learning to do that – I’m naturally not a very organized person, so I can see that motherhood is going to give me a nice kick in the pants in that area.

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  4. Elizabeth Gelsinger on October 12, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    I’m getting caught up on your blog… and have enjoyed this peak into your life with the most adorable baby ever. 🙂 I’m glad to hear you are lowering your standards – or perhaps qualifying them? Putting realistic expectations on yourself? I have to say that I admire your focus on Georgie – that’s always been something that stuck out to me about you being a mom. Continue loving every minute with her as you treasure this gift from God –I’ll be praying for you as you seek to use your time and efforts for the glory of God. He’s certainly molding you in this phase!

    • creatingmom on October 12, 2013 at 1:10 pm

      Thanks, Blaz. Yes I feel very stretched, and I’m learning what is important and just trying to soak up each day I have with Baby G, because you’re right, she is a gift from God. And all I have to do is love her! Also yes, I am lowering my standards for the nonessential stuff. But as my goodest friend Julie says, we’re not lowering our standards, we’re WIDENING them.

  5. Elizabeth Gelsinger on October 12, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    I’m getting caught up on your blog… and have enjoyed this peak into your life with the most adorable baby ever. 🙂 I’m glad to hear you are lowering your standards – or perhaps qualifying them? Putting realistic expectations on yourself? I have to say that I admire your focus on Georgie – that’s always been something that stuck out to me about you being a mom. Continue loving every minute with her as you treasure this gift from God –I’ll be praying for you as you seek to use your time and efforts for the glory of God. He’s certainly molding you in this phase!

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