Breastfeeding milestones: The Boobie Awards
Earlier this month, Baby G and I hit our 9 month breastfeeding milestone.
I think this is reason to celebrate. I want to note that this post is not to make any non-breastfeeding mamas feel bad. Some mamas very dear to me switched to formula early on after genuinely giving nursing their best shot. They get enough flack from everyone else that it would be wrong for me to dish them up a side of smugness here.
With that said though, breastfeeding is a huge part of my story and I want to talk about it here.
It was somewhere in Baby G’s third or fourth month of life when I started to get very weary of nursing. We had worked out the initial kinks that arose the first few weeks of breastfeeding – the poor latch, the unbelievably sore nipples, low milk supply – and Baby G and I had settled into a rhythm that worked for us. But 10 weeks in, I was still waking every 1.5 hours to nurse throughout the night and I was getting fatigued.
I wanted Joe to acknowledge how hard I was working to make breastfeeding work, so one day I jokingly told Joe that “most husbands” buy their wives presents for breastfeeding milestones. A gift at three months, a gift at six months, etc.
And he bought it! So I played along. Yes, all my friends’ partners bought them presents. No, I’m not mad at you. Well, maybe a little disappointed. But I forgive you. You didn’t know.
A few months later, he very sincerely approached me and said, “cutie, I used Google to try to find examples of what other husbands buy their wives for breastfeeding milestones and I couldn’t find what you were talking about.”
Not to be proven wrong now (I was too far in!), I made it my business to find someone on the Internet talking about gifts for breastfeeding milestones. EVERYTHING is on the Internet, right? Well, after scouring birth forums and blogs, I found what I was looking for.
They’re called the Boobie Awards, and it is a real thing.
I found this list on Tales from the Nursery:
- Bronze = 3 months of nursing
- Silver = 6 months of nursing
- Jade = 9 months of nursing
- Gold = 12 months of nursing
- Diamond = 18 months of nursing
- Platinum = 24 months of nursing
I added the “jade” award for 9 months because I needed an excuse to “catch up” for the awards I missed out on at three and six months. Plus jade is a rad stone.
So this weekend, Joe brought home a pretty wrapped bag with two of my favorite Disney movies on DVD – my jade Boobie Award! You might think that’s a lame gift, but if you knew me, you’d know how happy it made me.
I had honestly forgotten about my half-joking gift grab from him, so I wasn’t expecting a Boobie Award. With the gift he told me how much he appreciates me for nursing and thanked me for sticking with it this long.
I’m not sure when I’ll stop breastfeeding. Now with her eating a variety of solid foods, we’re doing just three to four nursing sessions a day. It’s been a really nice way to connect with a growingly independent girl without having to be milked around the clock. It puts her in a great mood, boosts her with immunities, and I actually find it relaxing now. She’s done with the all-night feedings and sleeps 10-12 hours solid every night. It’s the most convenient snack I cangive her. No preparation or cleanup needed! So as of today, I have no immediate plans to wean.
For the upcoming gold milestone (1 year), I told Joe to calculate how much a year supply of formula would have cost to gage how much he should spend on this gift. Fat chance of that happening, but it’s worth a shot, right?
But more than the material gifts, what I like about the Boobie Awards is it gives us a reason to celebrate reaching these hard-earned milestones.
So ladies, I think we should make this more mainstream. Tell your partners about the Boobie Awards. You have sacrificed time, convenience, sleep, your body and your vanity to breastfeed and you deserve to be honored.